Forgiving isn’t always the easiest thing to do when we are emotionally connected to certain issues of our life. There will be matters that make us feel it is easier not to forgive because lets be frank to those deserve it? Those who have hurt you clearly don’t deserve to be forgiven right? But NOT forgiving isn’t for those who need to be forgiven. Forgiveness is for YOU and only you and especially your sanity and most importantly your healing.
So how does forgiving heal or nurture you? Well lets get to the basics. What does not forgiving do to you? When we don’t forgive we are leaving a imprint on our mind and soul which carries a burden. The more you think about it the more it upsets you, the more you sit and stew in whats happened its detrimental to you and you won’t ever be able to move on.
When we forgive we are benefiting ourselves and not the people who caused us pain. I understand its easier said than done to just forgive and move on because there are certain deep pains within us which continuously pop up soon as we feel a negative emotion. However when we learn to forgive correctly soon as we are upset that old memory or pain won’t crop up and add to the pain we are already feeling.
So how do we make it a necessary part of our lives. Always look for the good in every situation and actually sit and list them and be grateful for them. Gratitude is the one thing that cannot let you add or carry a negative emotion it has been proven with science. The next step is to let go and tell yourself I won’t let this thing bother me anymore, I have learned my lesson and this is what I take from it. The third step is to remind yourself you are actually being deserving and forgiving is for ME, not to make the person or situation be overpowered on you. Your forgiveness is for you only and its to give you the freedom mentally which you deserve.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”